Ok so I know not everyone is happily married but I'm a little perturbed by one who is now on his way to happy divorce. I saw his Twitter tweet yesterday evening crowing about how he is truly "Bay Area" because he was sitting around drinking red wine and having his hair dyed crazy colors by his ex-wife. Well that answered that question. He's getting divorced.
This "he" is an old friend of mine who I've become increasingly distanced from over the years. He used to be a theater-geek way back in the day. But by the time he transferred to university at SFSU, well he became more and more what his idea of hipster (or something like it was). I tried to stay in touch with his lifestyle through blogs and the occasional email. But I became more and more aware that he was incredibly pretentious. He puts on these airs of who he supposed to be: work, hobbies, dance, romance.
We first met his wife at our wedding actually. They had only been dating a couple months. Hubster and I both thought they were right for each other, interested in each others music and hobbies and interests. We were invited to their wedding the next Spring, but couldn't go as we already had plans, but Hubster and I had just been married over a year.
They do odd things as a couple. Burning Man. Dickens Faire. Steam Punk conventions. Not to mention their whole wedding was done in home sewn Victorian garb and the reenacted Logan's Run through the streets of San Francisco with their just as odd and pretentious friends. It's all a show to these people. It's all about which nuveau punk band is playing at their "now" internet cafe. The tweets and blogs and facebook posts are self-important tripe begging to be validated. Frankly, I feel completely out of touch with this old friend and his new psyche. Frankly I'm a little disgusted as I am sickened by his pretense.
And yet . . . I am really truly sorry that his marriage has dissolved already, not quite 2 years full. Interestingly enough, he shares so much of his life online but he didn't share what led up to the end. And I guess, according to his post, they are still amicable. But it doesn't seem like it was at all right or real does it? Hubster asked "I wonder if he ever felt the 'forever love' that you should feel before you get married?" I asked "I wonder if they ever tried to work it out?" I thought they'd be able to make it work but obviously it wasn't happening. So I guess I need to ask now, was it all just a big pretense? like everything else?
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